Women's Issues: Abortion, After the Decision: ABORTION_ALLISONJOYCE__105

Aiyana, a 22-year-old artist, poses for a portrait in her home in New York. Aiyana says she was 20 years old when she became pregnant and had an abortion. “He ended up not being as supportive as I thought he would be (at the immediate time). He did everything he could, aside from paying for it. I initially paid for everything out of pocket. Although I was reimbursed for it – but to cover the initial costs, I took care of all of that. After it happened, when I did feel like I needed a lot of emotional support, he didn’t really provide that. So that was a contributing factor to us breaking up,” Aiyana said. “The clinic I got it done at, they allow men to be in the room. Which most clinics don’t allow. So I set the date for when my boyfriend would be back from tour because I wanted him to have to experience it with me, I guess. You know because as a male I felt that even though he was undoubtedly affected by it I sort of wanted him to in some part experience the physicality of everything that was happening. I think he was kind of freaked out but he was very supportive of me. I’m glad he was there,” Aiyana said. “It definitely has been really rewarding in some ways… at least I know I can give friends or acquaintances of mine somebody to talk to, who can give them advice or give them resources that they might not otherwise be aware of… Obviously it’s something private. But if it’s something that you feel ok talking about, I think that vocalization is important. I think it can help remove the stigma that’s attached to having an abortion,” Aiyana said.

Aiyana, a 22-year-old artist, poses for a portrait in her home in New York. Aiyana says she was 20 years old when she became pregnant and had an abortion. “He ended up not being as supportive as I thought he would be (at the immediate time). He did everything he could, aside from paying for it. I initially paid for everything out of pocket. Although I was reimbursed for it – but to cover the initial costs, I took care of all of that. After it happened, when I did feel like I needed a lot of emotional support, he didn’t really provide that. So that was a contributing factor to us breaking up,” Aiyana said. “The clinic I got it done at, they allow men to be in the room. Which most clinics don’t allow. So I set the date for when my boyfriend would be back from tour because I wanted him to have to experience it with me, I guess. You know because as a male I felt that even though he was undoubtedly affected by it I sort of wanted him to in some part experience the physicality of everything that was happening. I think he was kind of freaked out but he was very supportive of me. I’m glad he was there,” Aiyana said. “It definitely has been really rewarding in some ways… at least I know I can give friends or acquaintances of mine somebody to talk to, who can give them advice or give them resources that they might not otherwise be aware of… Obviously it’s something private. But if it’s something that you feel ok talking about, I think that vocalization is important. I think it can help remove the stigma that’s attached to having an abortion,” Aiyana said.